Looking Over My Shoulder

Here are my personal highlights (in no particular order) as I reflect on what was '07:

• Sitting in the hot springs at Banff while the snow fell around us
• Retreat at Kananaskis
• Coffee with my buddy Andrew who was visiting from TO
• Superbowl party at Cody's place
• Receiving a copy of Furious Pursuit from Tim King himself
• Sledding with my kids
• Going on a personal retreat at Kingsfold
• The adult fellowship murder mystery
• Going to see 300 on the big screen with a few of the boys
• Joel's hockey tournament in Edmonton where they took it all on a goal by him
• Game 5 playoff hockey between the Flames & Wings, it went to double overtime - unfortunately the Flames lost
• Beginning a mentoring relationship with Kevin (he has been a huge help to me)
• Blue Elephant & Porn Sunday
• Golfing at Turner Valley with the guys
• Being front row center for Julia's ballet concert
• Jacob drumming at his recital as Berkley accompanied him on guitar with "Smells Like Teen Spirit"
• Camping at Salmon Arm, Shrek at the Drive In, picking cherries in the Okanogan, visiting my friend Sean at his cafe & the Dutchmen Dairy
• Spending the day with our good friends Jason & Sarah after not seeing them in 12 years and getting to meet their miracle baby, Abigail
• The Millarville market
• Camping at Lake Louise, visiting Moraine Lake, driving up through the mountains to walk on the glacier & visiting Jasper - all with Leslie's mom during her visit
• Camping in Kananaskis
• Camping with our church fam
• Peel & Sarah moved to Calgary
• Tattoo convention
• Rekindling a relationship with Bram & Anita
• Beginning a mentoring relationship with Keith (this guys has meant more to Leslie & I so far then he knows)
• Receiving the Volunteer of the Year award with Leslie for our work in Deer Run with DRCC
• Seeing the Flyers beat the Flames in the home opener with Joel at the Saddledome (I've never seen the Flyers play in all these years as a fan)
• 3rd annual Turkey Bowl
• Road trip to Edmonton w/Berkley to see In This Moment, Rob Zombie & the prince of darkness himself - OZZY
• Conference in Ottawa w/Leslie - getting to spend some time with Pernell, Mike & a few other good friends
• Seeing Sid the kid with Jacob at the dome vs. the Flames
• Meeting Bret Hart with my kids & getting his book autographed
• Spending time with the Bailey fam
• Going to see "The Sound of Music" with the fam
• Meeting & getting to know Ron & Toni
• Getting a cake from Phil & Amanda as a thank you for our 3 years at South Meadows
• Countless coffees, meals & conversations with friends on the journey

Fav movies of 2007 (no particular order):

• TMNT
• Transformers
• Pirates 3
• Shrek the Third
• The Bourne Ultimatum
• Simpsons Movie
• Spiderman 3
• 300
• Beowulf at the IMAX
• Harry Potter and the Order of the Phoenix
• Gone Baby Gone
• The Assassination of Jesse James by the Coward Robert Ford

Fav music downloads of 2007 (no particular order):

• David Crowder Band - Remedy
• The Cult - Born into this
• In This Moment - Beautiful Tragedy
• Ozzy - Black Rain
• Billy Talent - 666
• Foo Fighters - Echoes, Silence, Patience & Grace
• K-OS - Atlantis: Hymns for Disco

Fav books read in 2007 (no particular order):

• Hitman
• The Present Future
• Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire
• Harry Potter and the Order of the Phoenix
• Furious Pursuit
• Spiritual Direction
• Divine Nobodies
• Exiles
• An Emergent Manifesto of Hope

Lowlight of 2007:

• The closing of our church. This was the hardest year for me personally in ministry. Sometimes misunderstood, misbelieved & working under the destructive tension of trying to live the way I believe while attempting to minister in an opposite way I don't buy into any longer.

God, it's been a good one! Here's to the next one...

Puritan New Year Prayer

Length of days does not profit me except the days are passed in thy presence, in thy service to thy glory.

Give me a grace that precedes, follows, guides, sustains, sanctifies, aids every hour, that I may not be one moment apart from thee, but may rely on thy Spirit to supply every thought, speak every word, direct every step, prosper every work, build up every mote of faith, and give me a desireto show forth thy praise, testify thy love, advance thy kingdom.

I launch my bark on the unknown waters of this year, with thee, O Father, as my harbor, (with) thee, O Son, at my helm, (with) thee, O Holy Spirit, filling my sails.

Guide me to heaven with my loins girt, my lamp burning, my ear open to thy calls, my heart full of love, my soul free.

Give me thy grace to sanctify me, thy comforts to cheer me, thy wisdom to teach, thy right hand to guide, thy counsel to instruct, thy law to judge, thy presence to stabilize.

May thy fear be my awe, thy triumphs my joy.

(From The Valley of Vision, p.112)

YOU DON'T HAVE TO GUESS WHAT GOD WANTS YOU TO DO

Many Christians stress out about making a decision because they wrongly believe they have to find God's one "right" answer to the problem. They spend countless hours struggling to determine God's "perfect will" for their lives--something God never told them to do.

"Perfect will"--the idea that God has a specific plan for us and that if we miss it, then we're living "Plan B"--is not a concept that's supported by Scripture. Our responsibility is to make sure we follow God's moral standards. Beyond that, we're free to choose the path for our life.

That's a difficult concept for many Christians to grasp. We want to believe that God must green-light all of our decisions--that he has a perfect will for each of us--one that we must find for ourselves. But is that really consistent with God's character and his interactions with us?

Throughout Scripture God presents himself using the analogy of a good father. Even if you don't have the best biological dad in the world, you know what a good father should be like.

I feel blessed because I do have a great father. My dad is an architect by trade, and his personality suits his chosen career. He's a very orderly, structured, and intentional person. If he weren't, then it would be hard for him to get anything built. (And if he weren't meticulous, then the buildings he designed would most likely fall down.) I see my dad as a significant creator who possesses many of God's attributes of orderliness, purpose, and imagination.

Yet as good a father as he is, my dad doesn't expect me to depend on him to make every decision for me. Can you imagine what my life might be like if he did?

"Hi, Dad, it's me. My friends want to go to lunch. Should I go with them?"
"Yes, son, you should."
"Where should we go?"
"You should go to Wendy's."
"What should I order?"
"You should order a Spicy Chicken Sandwich meal."
"Should I biggie-size it?"
"No, son, you must not biggie-size it."

I think you get the idea. It would be ridiculous to expect my father to have a firm opinion on all of those decisions. My father taught me how to tell right from wrong and how to make good choices. Therefore, I'm free to make decisions within those parameters without getting into trouble.

God, the best Dad we could ever hope for, has done the same thing for us. He's given us the boundaries of his moral standards and the freedom to make our own decisions within those boundaries.

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Taken from "Wisdom On... Making Good Decisions" by Mark Matlock, copyright 2008, Zondervan/Youth Specialties. Used by permission. Release date January 2008.

Closure

Our church had its last formal gathering today. It was a tough and emotional one.

This was our third church. We've moved on twice before leaving the church to the leadership of those who would succeed us. This however was different. It was much harder having the last word & searching for that last word to conclude with.

I hope the time we spent together this morning helped bring us a little further in the direction of closure. Of course I'm sure we will each wake up next Sunday feeling a little empty & displaced as it hits us that our corporate gathering no longer exists as it once did.

I have confidence that God is as much in this now as He was when He opened the door for us to come here three years ago. I have confidence that God has a plan now as He has been working it through the past few years. There have been times in the past 5 years where I had almost rushed God's timing; where with my impatience I was trying to push His hand. Looking back I realize how different things would have turned out if I had gone on emotion & my own personal steam instead of trusting God, even though I didn't know what He was up to.

I still don't fully know what's happening tomorrow. I can feel self doubt creeping in there. I'm looking for logical answers. Despite how I feel - at my core I am confident that God is doing something & right now I'm where I should be.

Love, gratitude & prayers go out to those who have journeyed with us these past three years as part of South Meadows. For some we were your pastors, for others you've gone beyond that to embrace us as friends. Thank you all.

‘May the Lord bless you
and protect you.
May the Lord smile on you
and be gracious to you.
May the Lord show you his favor
and give you his peace.’
(Numbers 6:24-26 NLT)

Things

I got a new game for Christmas & it is hands down the best game I've come across in a dang long time - Things! The game is a blast. We had seven of us playing it and I think the more people the better.

Here's the write up:

Want a Good Laugh?Well it's as simple as opening the box and playing THINGS...™ the hilarious new game that presents players with provocative topics, like:

• THINGS...™ people do when no one is looking.
• THINGS...™ your parents forgot to tell you.
• THINGS...™ you can never find.
• THINGS...™ dogs are actually saying when they bark.
• THINGS...™ you shouldn't tie to the roof of your car.

...and allows each player to say whatever comes to mind. Pick a topic, get everyone to write a response, read them out loud and then guess who said what. There are no right answers. There are no wrong answers. Just a lot of fun.

You won't believe the THINGS...™ you'll hear.

Merry Christmas!

From my blog to yours!

The Chimes are Changing?

More realistically, the times have changed!

Listen closely. The sound you may not be hearing this holiday season as you stumble from mall to mall is the tinkle of silver bells.

Of course if you live in a big city like Toronto, you may not be able to hear much of anything over the din of harried holiday shoppers and the incessant sound of cellphones with their Babel-like ringtones.

But listen some more. It's a subtle thing. Where is the chingle, chingle, chingle of the Salvation Army bells?

The Sally Ann bell-ringers themselves are there — in most of the big malls and by the subway stations and liquor stores — with their distinctive red kettles.

But check out their hands (it can be easier, sometimes, than looking them in the eye). Most have no bells. No little leather belts of jingling chimes to draw attention to their existence.

Finish the article here.

For the record, I hate the annoying sound of those bells and have NEVER rung them while volunteering on a kettle!

Be Kind Rewind

Traditions

One of the many things I love about our family is our purposeful time spent together. Leslie & I have created or adopted traditions for our family that happen at various times & seasons throughout the year. One of those traditions we came by unintentionally our first Christmas season in Calgary when we were given theatre tickets to see "Treasure Island".

Last year we decided we'd take our kids to see a production of "A Christmas Carol".

Today we once again took our kids to the theatre. This time it was to the Storybook Theatre production of "The Sound of Music". We had never been to Storybook Theatre but I must say it was quite good. We all enjoyed ourselves. As a youth, year after year avoiding my older sisters invites to annually watch "The Sound of Music" when it came on TV - today I delightfully sat through it!

P.O.D. Christmas Greeting

Who could ask for anything more!?

I was waiting in the Doctor's office last week and I was flipping through a magazine. I came across a VISA ad that listed probably 25 things the man pictured in the ad wanted to do before he died - bungee jump, ski in BC, etc. etc. I began thinking to myself - what would I like to do? I couldn't think of anything. I have no list.

I began to wonder - am I boring or dreamless? Why no list?

As I thought on this some more I realized there is truly nothing I want - not because I'm boring or dreamless but because I'm satisfied. I've been to Europe, Bahamas & South America; I've lived in Bermuda; I've lived both inland & on the coast; I've lived in some of the greatest cities & towns in Canada (the rest I've visited); I've been to the greatest city on Earth - NYC & that at the greatest time of the year, Christmas; I've cruised to Mexico; I've attended hockey games at some of the greatest arenas in the game - The Forum & Bell Centre, Maple Leaf Gardens & the ACC, MSG, Mellon Arena, the Saddledome; I've seen Gretzky, Lemieux & Crosby play live; I've met Ron Hextall, Patrick Roy, Joe Sakic, Steve Shutt to name a few; I've seen P.O.D. 3 times, Ozzy, Bon Jovi, Linkin Park, even ZZ Top; I've vacationed with my wife & kids in some of Canada's most picturesque National Parks - Algonquin, Banff, Kootenay, Gros Morne - & the memories we've made in the mountains & on lakes either out in our tent or tent trailer, priceless - SERIOUSLY, the list of blessings goes on & on!

I've been, done, met & experienced everything I've wanted to.

I have the greatest family in my wife & 3 kids and I've got friends in all of the 12 places I've lived to date - with a few close friends to boot.

I really can't think of anything else I'd like to do - God, don't take that as I'm ready to go coz' I ain't yet!

12 Days (like you've not heard it before)

Holiday Outflow Ideas

Random Acts of Kindness - good year-round!

Micro Phonies

This is hands down my favorite Stooges skit. My brother & I mocked this one for years - still do!

Bret Hart

My boys have become huge wrestling fans. Today I waited in line 2 hours (they joined me after an hour & 45), snuck a Christmas gift from the house & had Bret Hart sign it!

Bret Hart is the real deal. A true Canadian & local icon. He (and the Hart Foundation) were a favourite growing up.

The Excellence of Execution - the best there is, the best there was & the best there ever will be!

Here I'm asking him if he wants to go. He says - don't have me come across this table. Seriously, I'm not that dumb - he'd easily slap the sharpshooter on me.

btw - started reading the book while in line - I definitely recommend it, the Hitman is a great story teller

Happy Bday Leslie!

My lovely lady continues to get more beautiful each year!
Hope you have a great day!

What Would Jesus Buy?

Who Will Save Christmas?

Advent Conspiracy

spend less - give more - love all

Christ tends to get overlooked at Christmas. Let’s be honest. December comes and you think, “OK, this is the year.” This time you’ll swear you’ll slow down and take it all in. Make the most with family. Help the needy. Zero in on what it really means to be a Christ follower during this holy season.

What if you could inspire your church, your family and yourself to avoid being consumed by commercialism this Christmas?

ADVENT CONSPIRACY

Happy Bday Jake!

My buddy hits the double digits today.

Do They Know it's Christmas?

A Homemade Christmas

Check out familyfun for some inexpensive Christmas gift ideas.

The Wisdom of Dr. Seuss

"Don't cry because it's over. Smile because it happened."

Flames, Penguins & Hitmen

Jake & I were blessed enough to snag tickets to the much coveted Flames/Penguins game this week. Friends of ours won game day tickets too - we had a blast together! Here's a pic of Harvey the Hound catching site of Jake decked out in his Pens hat & Crosby jersey. We were in the first row of this section. Harvey grabbed the railing, stood over Jake & put Jacob's head into his mouth.

Here's the opening face off. The game went to a shoot out - Pittsburgh won 3-2. Jake was thrilled. Although Crosby was held off the scoresheet he was quite something to watch. He has great hockey sense, very smooth & strong on his skates.

The warm up!

The whole fam attended the Hitmen game last Sunday with Joel's hockey team. The game featured the annual teddy bear toss. Fans bring teddy bears to the game to toss on the ice after the Hitmen score their first goal.

The Hitmen scored within the first five minutes of the opening period - the rain of teddy bears began and continued for 1/2 an hour!

When the bears were all collected they totalled 26,919 (a new record) which the Hitmen distributed to local charities & hospitals.

Ron Hextall the Great

Twenty years ago today Hexy became the first goalie to shoot the puck down the length of the ice & into an empty net!

You can read more in this article or view it here.

Bend it like Beckham

Had dinner with friends last night who lent me Bend it like Beckham & said I had to watch it.

I wasn't interested in watching in before this but I must admit, now having seen it, it's a good flic.

It reminded me of My Big Fat Greek Wedding (from the perspective of appreciating our diversity across cultures).

There is so much we can learn from one another if we'd only take the time to listen lovingly & respectfully to each other.